With a little help from my (new) friends
Carter's therapists are the true heroes in our lives
I recently wrote about how alone I felt and I wondered where I had gone wrong not building a village of special need parent friends. I’m happy to say that I’ve been proven wrong.
When I started feeling lost, not knowing where to turn, I found the people who know Carter best to be right there walking beside me, lifting me up.
Carter has had some regressions, but most notably his anxiety has increased and he has expressed feeling lonely — I know so many kids are going through this right now.
Carter also has been more rigid in his surroundings, not so go-with-the-flow. I couldn’t help but feel like myself and society was failing him. Here was this kid who was thriving in school, seeking out being social and building relationships to the best of his abilities with peers and teachers, but now he is reclusive, has outbursts, is very loud vocally, and scripts quietly to himself when uncomfortable. I didn’t know where to turn or how to help.
Then I dropped him off for speech and occupational therapy. Carter’s therapists are true heroes in our lives. They are not just fully invested in providing skill building for Carter but are also fully invested in helping our entire family unit thrive.
These women have watched Carter grow over the few years and immediately reminded me that I am not alone. I have a village and they were there to listen to me cry — from an acceptable social distance — and offer me air hugs.
Most importantly, they can jump into an immediate hero role and help me brainstorm ways to keep Carter moving in the right direction. These women love Carter with big pieces of their hearts, and they take pride in his growth and awesomeness. They aren’t afraid to dig deep and help search out methods that best fit each family they work with daily.
They didn’t hesitate to jump back into the therapy office and rooms when regulations were lifted, because they know the value of these in-person sessions, and they are that selfless.
We are incredibly lucky to have found a home away from home, a safe place not just for Carter but also for our family. They may be Carter’s therapists, but they’ve become my friends and a part of this quirky family of mine.
Lauren Martone is a blogger for ParentingNH from southern New Hampshire. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org. Lauren and her family’s story were featured in the July 2015 issue of ParentingNH and in the July 2018 issue.