What are we going to do about school this fall?

The decision of what to do about school is still lurking, looming, and hanging over the heads of most parents.

Our district has announced their “plans,” but have not illustrated yet how these plans will play out.

Our options here are hybrid vs. full remote. Hybrid would be two days in person and two remote days. Remote students will have a live teacher assigned to them. They will have two days live and two days of enhanced learning.

I thought I had locked in my decision on hybrid. I figured between masks, smaller class sizes etc., it would be OK. Then our district decided to not mandate masks. And then other districts started announcing what their “new normal” would look like and I started to panic. Now neither of these seem like the right choice for us.

In-person instruction, including social opportunities with teachers, administrators and peers is of utmost importance. The friends are what we are missing most.

Remote learning this spring was really frustrating. Between the bazillion Zoom meetings, theme weeks and tracking down supplies that were needed, there’s no way I could commit to that again.

Maybe I should home school Carter? Maybe I could find a community within the community here and take that leap. But what about his IEP?

If I home school Carter, I lose it. When and if I re-enter him in school, we have to evaluate all over again. I just fought to keep him on an IEP as opposed to a 504. I can’t just give this up.

We are in a group of families where there doesn’t seem to be a right answer.

It doesn’t seem fair that we are forced to make a choice without knowing more details, or even that these uncertainties are even still lurking.

Making a decision without all the information is so difficult in any situation, let alone when you feel as though you’re shaping your child’s future, their emotional well-being, physical well-being, and when you can’t help as though you will be judged regardless of what you decide.

Silver linings are always nice to note, and I do see more groups of parents coming together to build each other up, create a community within a community, and provide a safe place to vent.

No matter what we decide, this school year will be different, and who knows if it will ever be the “same” again.

Lauren Martone is a blogger for ParentingNH from southern New Hampshire. You can contact her at lmart0825@gmail.com. Lauren and her family’s story were featured in the July 2015 issue of ParentingNH and in the July 2018 issue.

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