The family you choose

Where did the last 30 years go, and shouldn't we be making mixed tapes and eating pizza?

Time is slipping through my fingers everyday as I watch not only my children grow, but also the children of my friends and siblings, too.Lauren And M 0820

Children remind us just how fragile time is and how quickly it passes. I sometimes forget that I am an adult — a 37-year-old married woman. For some reason my mental reference is still me in my young 20s.

I have this amazing friend who is truly a sister in my life; we’ve been friends now for over 30 years. I have watched her grow into a career woman, a caretaker, a wife, and a mother of a rambunctious two-and-a-half-year-old. And she is pregnant with her second child.

Watching her is a reminder of where I am in life, and it often leads me to question… how the heck did we get here so quickly?

When she calls to say she’s coming over to my house, in my head we’re making mixed tapes and ordering Domino’s pizza on my deck. But then she shows up with this pregnant belly and toddler and I am reminded that life really has pushed us forward and brought us to where we are as parents and as adults.

It’s an incredible honor to walk so closely side-by-side with someone in life who is family, not by blood but by choice. I have enjoyed watching her life unfold so much and having her next to me on my bumpy ride. I am thankful I have her as a humbling moment in my life, to remind me where we are and to enjoy the moment because tomorrow it’s gone.

Lauren Martone is a blogger for ParentingNH from southern New Hampshire. You can contact her at Lauren and her family’s story were featured in the July 2015 issue of ParentingNH and in the July 2018 issue.

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