Not everything is what it seems

You don't always know what is going on in other people's lives just by looking at their social media

I knew when I shared my first blog about my current episodes of depression and anxiety that I would receive feedback.

But what I never anticipated was the outpouring of emotional and relatable responses.

There are always beautiful blessings to all things, and truthfully, these emails, Facebook messages and texts I have received have helped push me forward and helped my fog lift a tad.

I’d say today as I write I am a 6-7, according to my rating system. I am noticeably less sad and tearful. I am however still anxious, and that is something I would definitely like to get a grasp on. I know it will come.

We’ve decided to pack the kids up and take them “glamping” for a few days. We rented a tiny little cabin and we will be off the grid for a few nights. A reset we surely all need badly.

I wanted to share one other discovery, an a-ha moment I had while going through the responses I received. And that is how damaging social media can be to our psyches. We don’t realize as we scroll the effect it can have on our brains.

Based on posts, pictures and followings, I would have never known that some of these folks are struggling.

I often find myself looking at others pictures and wondering, what I am missing? Why can’t I feel as happy as they look?

Now I better understand that most of what I see just scratches the surface of what life is like and that I need to be more empathetic because it is impossible to know what is really happening in someone else’s life.

I promise to continue to share and for those who stay with me here, keep reaching out, too.

We truly are all in this together.

(Editor’s note: Lauren’s blog will return Sept. 10)

Lauren Martone is a blogger for ParentingNH from southern New Hampshire. You can contact her at lmart0825@gmail.com. Lauren and her family’s story were featured in the July 2015 issue of ParentingNH and in the July 2018 issue.

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