A great little sister, and my special sidekick

Aubrey's life has certainly been shaped by her older brother's autism diagnosis

I have been thinking a lot about the sacrifices Aubrey has had to make in her short life because her brother has autism.

We had a small break from shuffling to therapies, school and sports. But, with Carter transitioning back to school and adding extra therapy, we are again constantly out and about on Mondays and Tuesdays, and still remote schooling and managing independent instruction. It is a lot! There just isn’t a lot of time for Aubrey.

From the day she came home from the NICU she has spent a lot of time in the car with me schlepping Carter around. I can’t help but feel like if she had more of an opportunity to be on a schedule, she would be a better sleeper. She is thriving though; she is so smart and independent. So, when I start feeling sad about all the sacrifices she has made, I remind myself how much it has shaped her kind heart and big personality. We have also developed this intense bond because we spend so much time in the car together waiting for Carter.

Aubrey is truly a hilarious kid. She loves big but it takes a lot for her to let you in. She is learning to be patient, and she is observing the differences between her and her brother.

Their bond is incredible. I am so lucky to be able to foster their closeness and relationship. I love that they fight, and I love how fiercely competitive Aubrey is because it is teaching Carter how to win and lose and how to handle those big emotions. They are two very different people, but they have so much to offer each other. I am so grateful we were able to give Carter a sibling.

I will always make sure Aubrey knows how special she is, too, and how lucky the world is to have her in it.

Lauren Martone is a blogger for ParentingNH from southern New Hampshire. You can contact her at lmart0825@gmail.com. Lauren and her family’s story were featured in the July 2015 issue of ParentingNH, and also in the July 2018 issue.


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